She was a really funny, energetic girl. She had been married for several years and had two little girls. Her and her husband started to come to Forefront and were instantly excited.
Then she dropped the B-bomb. Yep, you guessed it, she was a bisexual. She slept with other women and her husband slept with other men. Their agreement was that they wouldn't get involved with someone of a different sex; but the same sex was fine.
What in the world, God? How do I help her? Why do you want me to get involved? What can I possibly do? What do I say? Are you sure I'm the right person for this job? OK fine, I'll do it, but you're going to have to do it for me.
We met every week for months. I would go to her apartment and sit with her and we'd talk. She was beginning to understand the whole Christian thing. She understood that her current situation wasn't what God had intended for marriage. She needed help living it out. She wanted to be free; to have a healthy marriage...she just didn't know how.
I became her accountability partner. I prayed for her and asked her the hard questions about her behavior the previous week. I talked to her. I listened. I drove by the gay bar to see if her car was there (she told me that if her car was there that I was to come inside and pull her out).
I'm glad that I listened to God and jumped into this messy situation. Was I qualified? No. Did I have all the right answers? No. Was I scared out of my mind. Yes. Did I follow God into the darkness? Yes. Do I regret being used by God in this situation? No way.
Are you available to God? Are you willing to do things you don't want to do? Are you willing to get out of your comfort zone? Chances are good that at some point in your ministry God is going to ask you to do something that will make you extremely uncomfortable. Will you do it? Will you follow God into the dark, messy chaos of people's lives?
My friend is in Bible College now. She's passionate for God. Do you think it was worth it?
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