What if God only wanted them to stay for one month? Or three months? Or one year? What if God is the orchestrator of their departure? If you think about it from this perspective there is a whole let less to be upset about, isn't there? As church planters we might be disappointed and feel rejected if someone joined the team and then left before we thought they should. But what if they were simply obeying God in leaving?
This realization has saved me from so much pain. If you really believe that God is in charge of your church plant, then you should believe that He's got every detail under control. Including the people He led to help you start the church.
The idea of God's sovereignty is difficult for us at times. We like to be in control and feel like we've got things covered. In reality, however, we don't. Sometimes we hold on so tightly to things (and people) that we forget that God is actually the one doing the holding and not us. Our perspective gets messed up; we can only see part of the picture and so we freak out instead of trusting God, who sees the complete picture.
Some of us have been hurt so badly that even changing perspectives won't help us feel better. In that case, I'd encourage you to see a counselor. You need to work through the pain of what you've experienced. It's the only way you're going to be able to have healthy, trusting, safe relationships in the future. You can't keep holding onto the pain and expect that it won't affect your relationships. Whether you like it or not, you've got to deal with it.
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